Bernie Rowen-Ross reminds us of the importance of our actions and how easy it is to spread kindness to those around us.


Oh what joy, the autumn colours are showing off their best palette! As I watch the leaves falling it reminds me of our own impermanence, our own time on the planet. The leaves, dance down to mother earth and eventually become the food for new plants in a joyous surrender to growth and impermanence all at the same time. 

How I hope that we too as humans could do the same. Let’s live to the full, and when it is our time to leave our bodies behind, let’s do it with the abandon that the leaf does when it leaves its branch. The process of life and death is the one process that we cannot ignore, as illustrated in the Buddhist teaching:

I am of the nature to grow old.
There is no way to escape growing old.
I am of the nature to have ill health.
There is no way to escape ill health.
I am of the nature to die.
There is no way to escape dying.
All that is dear to me and everyone I love
are the nature to change.
There is no way to escape
being separated from them.
My actions are my only true belongings.
I cannot escape the consequences of my actions.
My actions are the ground upon which I stand.

It’s the last remembrance that is the most practical and relevant to those around us and society. My actions are the ground upon which I stand. It is easy to be kind, if we think of how much we can do for another person. Small actions count, a little hand-picked bunch of flowers for a lonely person, shopping for a friend, calling on your lonely neighbour, sending food to the food bank, helping at a charity. Knitting squares for blankets for the refugees or children in need, or simply giving time to a vulnerable person. Most of us reading this magazine are able to be of help, and I greatly appreciate the kindness that I have observed in East Lothian. 

The weather is getting colder, more people are spending time indoors, we can make sure that those folk who are alone have something like a visit, or a phone call to light up their day. Remember it is your actions that are the ground upon which you stand.

Happy autumn and enjoy the beauty that surrounds us.

Bernie Rowen-Ross is an Ayurvedic Counsellor and Psychotherapist, she consults via Zoom
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